tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post3210959580925124173..comments2024-03-15T04:41:18.455-04:00Comments on My Infertility Woes: How We Need Our Momsmyinfertilitywoeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00537466634453988773noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-10459968174976446432011-01-31T16:17:59.972-05:002011-01-31T16:17:59.972-05:00I'm almost crying thinking about what it would...I'm almost crying thinking about what it would be like to lose my husband so soon after getting married! But I'm really glad you're piecing things back together with your mom. Your ability to do so definitely shows a lot of progress, and I'm sure both you and she (and other family members) will be so thankful for the deeper relationship you can develop.Ceejayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06084169397555487550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-11795373302431215902011-01-30T09:43:31.972-05:002011-01-30T09:43:31.972-05:00It is so hard. We need people to be supportive in...It is so hard. We need people to be supportive in the way that we need, but much like kids, we don't come with an instruction manual for handling. What to say, what not to say. When to just listen. Has your friend tried referring her mom to a grief site for family and friends (you know, like Resolve for us)?? Maybe she just needs a nudge in the right direction. <br /><br />What is great, is that you can understand, on some level) what she is experiencing on the mom front. Which means you CAN be supportive. <br /><br />HUGS to them.Kakunaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09680945395324128951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-61045955895405130452011-01-29T11:36:34.099-05:002011-01-29T11:36:34.099-05:00I found your post interesting. It's sad that y...I found your post interesting. It's sad that you don't feel comforted and supported by your mom. It's interesting because I have actually kept my fertility issues a secret from my parents. I have had 3 miscarriages; 5 failed IUIs and we are about to start IVF if all goes well with my lady parts. I know my mother would want me to call her up when I have my bad days, but I have decided to not let her be a part of my struggle because I think she would get too stressed about me getting stressed. I feel tremendous guilt for hiding this from her, but I think she wouldn't understand. So, in some respects I can relate to a whole lot of what you said because my mother is a problem solver. I think sometimes we need to embrace, "It is what it is".micgruberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15355266043234132591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-2396441311771055562011-01-28T20:57:34.260-05:002011-01-28T20:57:34.260-05:00I hope you and your mother can find a way to move ...I hope you and your mother can find a way to move forward together. Sending love to you...cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-37368247739697301582011-01-28T20:35:54.797-05:002011-01-28T20:35:54.797-05:00I can relate to the part about her not saying what...I can relate to the part about her not saying what you need her to during the difficult times. Mine also always wants to focus on the positive and be upbeat and it's hard when you're feeling so far from that. Glad you've been able to get to a point of acceptance.rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.com