tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post3934292483111069880..comments2024-03-15T04:41:18.455-04:00Comments on My Infertility Woes: Depressionmyinfertilitywoeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00537466634453988773noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-78751039787363028422011-06-28T18:27:28.444-04:002011-06-28T18:27:28.444-04:00I think your doc has a good point. Best to take ca...I think your doc has a good point. Best to take care of it than not. Meds and therapy are the only things that helped me.Terry Elisabethhttp://pandabox33.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-7931886293031424932011-06-28T02:12:27.094-04:002011-06-28T02:12:27.094-04:00Hi. I just stumbled across your blog and when I re...Hi. I just stumbled across your blog and when I read this it's as if I had written it. I am in the same depression boat as you. I too have been toying with the idea of going on antidepressants and after reading this and the comments people have left, I realize I need to be more proactive about getting my mental state back to a healthy place. Thanks for being open and honest about your depression struggles. <br /><br />I am currently seeing an acupuncturist, but unfortunately, unlike the above commenters, it has not helped with my depression or stress.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04263356360961833493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-72240971562258353962011-06-27T23:26:02.773-04:002011-06-27T23:26:02.773-04:00I think you need to take care of you first. There ...I think you need to take care of you first. There are lots of safe treatments you can take during ttc and pregnancy.<br /><br />Speaking for myself, my tendency to feel depressed has been WORSE since I got pregnant, so I can't tell you getting pregnant will make it better!<br /><br />I definitely second the above commenter's recommendation of acupuncture. It has worked WONDERS with my mental wellbeing.<br /><br />xxxSuzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10979257233557088253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-58907519974652189322011-06-23T11:26:41.478-04:002011-06-23T11:26:41.478-04:00I'm a lurker de-lurking here to offer up some ...I'm a lurker de-lurking here to offer up some support. I am diagnosed with having chronic depression and anxiety, and I can tell you it was much worse while going through IF treatment. I had a really great psychiatrist who stayed up to date on the current research around drugs safe in pregnancy and breastfeeding, and there are alot that have only like a .2% chance of impacting a pregnancy, which is considered insignificant. Once I got my BFP, my depression and anxiety did not go away and only worsened, and I felt terrible for that, feeling like I should be on top of the world. Depression during pregnancy is a silent ghost and can greatly have an impact on the baby and attachment, almost all drs. should be knowledgeable about this and share with you this information to help you make an informed decision. I have done alot of research on this during my Masters of Social Work program as I hope to become a therapist working with IF in the future. I also think being as "well" as you can be going into treatment will help make a smoother cycle. There is alot of emerging mind-body research out now with IF and they are showing direct correlations with your mood and treatment success. I started doing acupuncture on my 8th cycle, and that 8th cycle is when I got my BFP. I LOVE acupuncture, if you haven't done it, I would consider adding it into your treatment protocol as it really does help with your mood and overall feeling of being able to handle stress. Best wishes, please continue to update us on how you're doing.Mindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09886482043446293758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-6737147679422709522011-06-23T11:02:24.814-04:002011-06-23T11:02:24.814-04:00Zoloft is definitely safe in pregnancy and definit...Zoloft is definitely safe in pregnancy and definitely I have seen that depression can affect fertility. But, truthfully, it's not up to you to take meds, it's up to a trained doctor to decide whether or not your situation warrants meds. I would suggest as a first step, finding a counselor in your area who deals with infertility or if that is not possible- trauma/ loss. (Look at Resolve.org for suggestions.) <br /><br />Remember to be gentle with yourself. Infertility takes a toll on us emotionally. They have done several research studies to discover that the effects of infertility on us emotionally are similar to those experienced by people who have lifethreatening illnesses. <br /><br />Take care of yourself, and it's okay to not feel great about this. It's okay to admit the emotions are too much to handle; don't pressure yourself! I will say, taking IVF hormones may make it worse so it's good to prepare yourself.Glass Case of Emotionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05955456197879910244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-85006995514737392342011-06-23T09:26:31.451-04:002011-06-23T09:26:31.451-04:00I think your previous commenters offered some gre...I think your previous commenters offered some great advice. I admire the strength and courage you have exhibited during your difficult times. And I think it shows courage to seek help when it is needed. I hope you enjoy your vacation in Spain.Janahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09804891382407278946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-91789413141520151792011-06-23T04:47:43.013-04:002011-06-23T04:47:43.013-04:00I'm sorry you are feeling this way. You have b...I'm sorry you are feeling this way. You have been through so much I think it would be miraculous if it wasn't having an effect on you. <br /><br />My counsellor never labeled me as 'suffering from depression' - but said I was 'experiencing symptoms of a depressive illness'. I know it may sound like there's no difference but it helped me see the problem as an illness that could be tackled, not a label or failing in me. Cognitive behavioural therapy really helped me and also let me see I'm not a problem to be 'fixed'. <br /><br />I have been reading your blog for some time. You shine out through your words as a hopeful, positive and wonderful person who is going through really tough times. Be gentle on yourself and do what you feel will bring you most peace.Janey981https://www.blogger.com/profile/09436921895738003772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-12362369735581638232011-06-23T03:28:42.238-04:002011-06-23T03:28:42.238-04:00Drugs can help lift mood but counselling is there ...Drugs can help lift mood but counselling is there to sort out the underlying issues. Why not do both?Claire https://www.blogger.com/profile/12150226708200368725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-38197792443579970112011-06-22T19:01:28.336-04:002011-06-22T19:01:28.336-04:00You don't have to decide alone; see a counsell...You don't have to decide alone; see a counsellor or psychiatrist. And no, if it's taken this long and you've gone through this much, chances are you won't magically be happy once you get pregnant. Maybe you will - but it's also not uncommon to be totally freaked out, paranoid, have trouble accepting it could be a permanent thing, etc. You might be able to enjoy your pregnancy more if you get help before you are pregnant! And things will be easier on you getting to that stage too. ((HUGS))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-59251811948465171932011-06-22T15:52:29.515-04:002011-06-22T15:52:29.515-04:00Honestly, I wouldn't have made it through with...Honestly, I wouldn't have made it through without meds. And many are safe for pregnancy (zoloft and wellbutrin). It's worth a shot...but it takes a month or so to kick in, so keep that in mind.Kakunaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09680945395324128951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-50867190340699572272011-06-22T15:30:05.218-04:002011-06-22T15:30:05.218-04:00I have suffered with depression for a good part of...I have suffered with depression for a good part of my life, and my infertility has just made it worse.<br /><br />My medical team (MDs, RE's and others) all felt that it was better to treat the depression then go unchecked. I had actually see studies linking failed IVF cycles with depression. If the woman is in a good head space the cycles go much better.<br /><br />Most antidepressants are perfectly safe to take during IF treatments and pregnancy. <br /><br />If you have any questions feel free to contact me.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12659495120851692141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-32613092030807669182011-06-22T14:56:31.527-04:002011-06-22T14:56:31.527-04:00TTC is a roller coaster! I remember feeling high a...TTC is a roller coaster! I remember feeling high and feeling low all the time. I was on anti-depressants in the beginning, then switched to st.johns. W.orth for a while. I was on that up until we started IVF and I think during too (can't remember). <br /><br />Everybody is different. I hope you will be able to enjoy your vacation. Maybe the change in sceneary will help. Good luck!Life Happenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02302134343874268994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-58596092173326948812011-06-22T14:31:13.642-04:002011-06-22T14:31:13.642-04:00We have been TTC for over three years, and I have ...We have been TTC for over three years, and I have to say that there is something about going through IF that *seriously changes* you. Or it has me, anyway. I think the more wrapped up in the hassle of it, the daily blood work, the no caffeine, the 2wws, the harder it is to be the happy-go-lucky person that you once were. Especially if there aren't a lot of people to talk to about it. My hubs and I only release small amounts of information to our families, so I have him and blog world to talk to. It's hard for that not to turn in on myself, but the more I am able to surround myself with doctors that I like and am comfortable with, and the more I am able to step back and give myself a break, the more *me* I feel. Don't try to pressure yourself into feeling great all the time, it is just not possible or right when you are going through IF. Hang in there.PCOStoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16136857409502417747noreply@blogger.com