tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post6827869693696640177..comments2024-03-15T04:41:18.455-04:00Comments on My Infertility Woes: Is it All Worth It?myinfertilitywoeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00537466634453988773noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-40498025154692689812011-04-12T09:09:54.247-04:002011-04-12T09:09:54.247-04:00I think it's unfair for someone who did not go...I think it's unfair for someone who did not go through the struggles to even have a child to tell someone else "It's all worth it." An infertile's journey starts so much farther back and wears you down in all the most intimate areas of life, not to mention emotionally, physically and financially. I know she means well but try to remember that her journey and yours have been vastly different! That is always the way, though, isn't it?<br /><br />I think your post is well said and once again, resonating so clearly with those of us who are "Childless Not By Choice". Be we will choose to be happy, fulfilled and compassionate by choice. More and more I am aware the amazing supporting role women (and men) without children play in this world.<br /><br />I'm so glad that this journey has led us to become friends and supporters of one another. I consider it an honor.<br /><br />Lily - The Infertile MindLilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16358970796646506205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-46818763000268386292011-04-12T08:26:56.311-04:002011-04-12T08:26:56.311-04:00I am right there with you. After 4 years, I am no...I am right there with you. After 4 years, I am not sure where to go yet. I cannot imagine living child free yet at the same time this cannot continue to take over my life. It just can't. I have no real answers for you, but wanted you to know that you are not alone. I totally understand and am here for you.... sending lots of love your way.cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-42058130568021521232011-04-12T02:24:30.263-04:002011-04-12T02:24:30.263-04:00For lack of a better term, baby steps. Everything...For lack of a better term, baby steps. Everything about healing in this journey is about that. And at some point, no, it's not worth it. Sanity has to happen. Peace. However you come to that. HUGS.Kakunaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09680945395324128951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-35967561692458288052011-04-11T21:29:18.129-04:002011-04-11T21:29:18.129-04:00My goodness girl this post really resonated with m...My goodness girl this post really resonated with me..... Over the past 7yrs its been so hard that some days I didn't know how I would make it through all of this....and here I am still standing.....anyone who says its all worth it is crazy----those are the people who have children already or those who have never had to live with never having a precious baby....and those people need to keep those comments to themselves because they obviously don't understand. its not worth it...only those still going thru this immense pain can truly understand. During my blogging days it was fellow bloggers like you who kept me motivated to keep going and therefore I didn't feel so all alone....I know for a fact that you are strength for a lot of people and thats a blessing within itself.Plus we have a lot of other things that other people in the world don't have....so we have to remind ourselves of this constantly.....I wish you much peace, and joy, and blessings......I pray that God will really do some amazing things in your life, marriage, and heal all the broken pieces ....I pray that one day He will take the pain away from all of us.....I love you friend.Shanelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11825882418484714630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-11142270497364417072011-04-11T20:23:24.558-04:002011-04-11T20:23:24.558-04:00I'm so sorry for everything you have been thro...I'm so sorry for everything you have been through! Letting go is a real struggle for me, too. I find that I have to go through the "I no longer want this point" before I can truly get to a more balanced "whatever happens happens" perspective. It's like my psyche has to live out all of the possibilities before it can let go and I feel like I can live with whatever happens. I'm definitely not there yet when it comes to IF. <br /><br />I wish you all the best on your journey, wherever it may take you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-79371986063564281992011-04-11T11:40:35.488-04:002011-04-11T11:40:35.488-04:00I hit that turning point too, where ART was no lon...I hit that turning point too, where ART was no longer worth it. It was actually walking out of our third RE's office, consulting for a SIXTH IVF cycle and all of a sudden I just realized, no more. <br />Of course we went towards adoption which has had it's own share of bumps and painful parts too...but I totally get the medical treatment side ceasing to be worth it at some point.<br />Hugs.MyTwoLineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488860357456329714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-32456821296568091332011-04-11T06:29:57.217-04:002011-04-11T06:29:57.217-04:00you are not alone in so many of of those thoughts ...you are not alone in so many of of those thoughts and feelings. here's hoping today is a day you can feel a little more like you :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-84162159550411838582011-04-10T13:47:50.043-04:002011-04-10T13:47:50.043-04:00It's a hard place to get to. I'm still wo...It's a hard place to get to. I'm still working on the part of my journey that I'm in. I'm thankful that I have Bobby and Maya now, but I also realize that I cant have any more... that I cant go through 4 more miscarriages or 3 more baby deaths. I just cant. Sometimes people make glib comments like "Dont you want to try again? It was worth it for this- it would be worth it for that." And I think, really? Perhaps at some point we make the best of all we have and try to make the best of where we stand... today.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797240115689353435.post-46734921867869129992011-04-10T11:12:46.355-04:002011-04-10T11:12:46.355-04:00Thank you for sharing your post...A lot of what yo...Thank you for sharing your post...A lot of what you said hit home for me in a lot of ways...I am not sure how much more I can bear either. I think it's hard shutting the door to IF struggle, but you will find your own resolution. Decisions are difficult to make and a decision to be childless is not selfish - you need to choose the path that is right for you...micgruberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15355266043234132591noreply@blogger.com