Saturday, September 17, 2011

2nd Opinion on IVF/Lots to Work Through

I'm doing... maybe a little better?

Who knows anymore! It seems like every time I feel like I may be better, I take 2 steps back again. I guess that's just the way it is and am thankful that I continue to go to counseling!

The biggest thing is that I went to see another specialist for a 2nd opinion on whether IVF is really our next step or do we have other options. The facts are:
  • I've been able to get pregnant 4 times now (2 prior to fibroid surgery with IUI, 2 after naturally)
  • I can't stay pregnant past 5 1/2 weeks
  • One of my tubes may be blocked now as recently as a year ago
So, with all of this, 2nd opinion doc says that yes, he'd recommend IVF again. He said (like the other did) that we could do IVF but that won't really give us more data on why I'm having trouble staying pregant.

I have a lot to think through because I've been reluctant to do IVF. If they could tell me that doing IVF would help me stay pregnant, I think I'd do it, but they're just saying they can control a lot more and see a lot more and therefore figure out what the real problem is if there is still a problem.

Such heaviness.

In the meantime, I'm struggling with my own feelings of feeling like I don't have a choice in the matter. My husband has stressed to me that I do have a choice but his strong feelings about a biological link due to his father passing away during his childhood makes me feel like I'd be a horrible person if I didn't at least try to do this for him.

See what I mean? Heaviness.

So, that's where I am right now - with a whole lot of counseling to help sift this all through.


  1. Hi! Just found your blog and wanted to add my two cents worth... We got pregnant two time naturally - miscarried both times, one at 4.5 weeks and one at 5.5 weeks. None off the tests showed anything wrong with me other than positive for one copy of MTFHR mutation which is supposed to be not a big deal. Did 6 IUIs - none resulted in pregnancy. Did IVF in July - got pregnant on first attempt. Now 9.5 weeks pregnant!!! I know it is still early but it is still very encouraging that I was able to go beyond 5.5 weeks! Best of luck to you on your journey!!!

  2. I hope you get everything figured out. IVF is scary and you need to do whats best for you.

  3. Heavy.
    Do what you feel is right for you.

  4. IVF treatment is good for those who cannot conceive a child naturally but some researches have shown that IVF treatment increases the chances of disability in children.