Relating IF to TV and Movies

In the last couple of weeks, I've seen 3 instances in tv and movies where IF/loss were addressed in ways that completely resonated with me:

1. Gre.y's Ana.tomy. Last week Meredith broke down admitting that she was jealous of Callie's baby shower.
2. Parent.hood. Julia and her husband have been trying to get pregnant for a few months and the show started out with her negative pregnancy test once again. The show ends with her describing uterine scarring which will likely prevent a pregnancy from happening.
3. Rab.bit Ho.le. This movie, starring Ni.cole Kid.man and Aa.ron Eck.hart, is about how they deal with the grief of losing their 4 year old. What got me was the relationship between the wife and her mother. It was so tenuous, with the mother clearly sometimes saying the wrong things (by mistake) and sometimes being helpful. At one point, the mother says 'sometimes I don't know your rules'.

While I don't love that infertility and loss continue to exist, it does make me feel better knowing it's at least getting 'out' there. And while it is still characters playing these roles, it makes me feel like I'm not crazy to have similar thoughts and reactions.

I also like that making these issues more prevalent may help others understand what it's like to go through infertility and loss.

I'm glad to see tv and movies helping us to feel less alone.
And that completely resonated with me.

Miscarriages on TV These Days

Anyone watch the season finale to Gr.ey's Ana.tomy last week? How about this past Sunday's Ar.my Wi.ves?

If you've DVR'd them and haven't watched yet, don't read on until you have or I'll ruin it for you... well, I guess I may have already with my title.

Not the right time for me to be watching these, I'll tell you. It was water works galore for me. Both Meredith and Roxy experienced miscarriages in these episodes though Meredith's was a bit unbelieveable (though what exactly on Gr.ey's Ana.tomy is believeable???).

On the one hand, they were really sad for me and I really did cry... on the other hand, it was nice to see, in particular with Ar.my Wi.ves, and how it was handled with Roxy portraying it even if it was almost a little too much Mar.ley & Me with the dog cuddling up to her and all.

But I could completely relate. She was down. Couldn't really talk about it. Was in a complete funk. All of that.

I'm sure many of us can relate to it. I completely did.  Especially knowing that I'm on somewhat of a brink of experiencing this again right now. Should know later today what my hCG is...