Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Relating IF to TV and Movies

In the last couple of weeks, I've seen 3 instances in tv and movies where IF/loss were addressed in ways that completely resonated with me:
  1. Gre.y's Ana.tomy. Last week Meredith broke down admitting that she was jealous of Callie's baby shower.
  2. Parent.hood. Julia and her husband have been trying to get pregnant for a few months and the show started out with her negative pregnancy test once again. The show ends with her describing uterine scarring which will likely prevent a pregnancy from happening.
  3. Rab.bit Ho.le. This movie, starring Ni.cole Kid.man and Aa.ron Eck.hart, is about how they deal with the grief of losing their 4 year old. What got me was the relationship between the wife and her mother. It was so tenuous, with the mother clearly sometimes saying the wrong things (by mistake) and sometimes being helpful. At one point, the mother says 'sometimes I don't know your rules'.
While I don't love that infertility and loss continue to exist, it does make me feel better knowing it's at least getting 'out' there. And while it is still characters playing these roles, it makes me feel like I'm not crazy to have similar thoughts and reactions.

I also like that making these issues more prevalent may help others understand what it's like to go through infertility and loss.

I'm glad to see tv and movies helping us to feel less alone.
And that completely resonated with me.


  1. I have been feeling the same about these plot lines. I feel that after some flubs on Grey's they are finally getting it right, which is awesome. It's about time, though bittersweet.

  2. I am glad to see that TV and movies are starting to bring Infertility and the struggles onto the screen. It can only help for people to understand the struggles people go through.

  3. now if we could only get the tv shows and movies to not deal with infertility like it is a cliche, we will have won a battle! I am thinking of Sex and the City with how they wrote the storyline for Charlotte!

  4. I couldn't agree more...it's wonderful to see these issues being talked about and being portrayed realistically.

  5. My ttc days are long gone ( we ending up adopting...twice, our babies are now 12 and 11), but Julia`s negative test took me right back to my own string of negative test. That is a punch in the gut you just never forget.

    If Julia ends up going on vacation and getting pregnant I will kick my TV tho.

  6. I have been seeing a lot of it in TV shows too. I don't know if it's because I'm aware that it exists and I immediately see it or if it's because it's getting more out there.