After a few days of angst over how to handle my boss's comments on my performance, I decided to have a follow-up talk with him today and am so glad I did. I started out by asking if he had any new performance concerns since we last talked 6 weeks ago. He said no, just that I hadn't seemed to change much.
I then shared with him for context that we've had a difficult past year most recently experiencing a miscarriage over Thanksgiving, so it's just taking me awhile to get back on my toes but that I'm committed to the company, etc. He was suprisingly empathetic and actually shared that he and his wife faced struggles in this area, and that he wishes us success with this. And let's work together to get me back...
Overall, I'm glad I shared (if only at a high-level) and that I also emphasized that I'm committed to the company no matter what happens in this area for us (I was afraid that he'd think I might not be once we got pregnant or had a baby).
Phew, do I feel like a weight off my shoulders! Now, I gotta get crackin' on all that work ;)
2 years ago
glad to hear that conversation went well. I always fear telling bosses about TTC because they might think I will bail once it ever happens.
ReplyDeleteHooray! I'm glad the conversation went well and that you could get this concern off your mind before the Christmas holiday. Merry Christmas!
ReplyDeleteYou really never know what someone else is dealing with, I am so glad the conversation went well.
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing how therapeutic it can be to tell anyone about things like this--even acquaintances and coworkers. It just helps so much to feel more understood. I'm so glad he was so kind and understanding!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you were able to be open and honest with your boss, and that he was sympathetic about your struggles. It's so freeing to get it out in the open, or at least that's my opinion. Good for you!
ReplyDeleteSo, so glad to hear that things went well & that you are feeling relief after talking with him. Its great to hear he was so supportive! Merry Christmas my friend and heres to 2011 bringing good news all around!!!
ReplyDeleteI've been MIA with all the holiday madness but am checking back in. So glad you said something to your boss and that it was received with empathy!
ReplyDeleteI also didn't know you worked in HR - I have too and loved it. I'm sure you are amazing at it! :)