I feel terrible that my brother's comments on face.book affect me the way they do. He probably doesn't even realize it (of course he doesn't!) and even if he did, it's my problem. They shouldn't affect me like this...
My brother has a 2 1/2 year old son and a 6 year old step-son. We love them both dearly.
Recently, with his wife's brother and sister-in-law's anniversary, he posted "make my boys some cousins tonight." It really affected me. I know, he has a weird sense of humor to begin with (not sure that I would've posted something like that...) but I couldn't help but think that we want to make his boys some cousins - and in fact, they would already likely have one by now if we weren't faced with infertility!!!
I did think it was slightly insensitive on his part, but then again, even though he knows of our struggles, he has no idea how an innocent thing like that can come across.
And on father's day, he posted, "he did it! it was, like, 11:30pm but [my son] slipped it in in the nick of time, giving me my 1st ever "happy father's day." i thought i was gonna have to wait til next year."
Sweet, right? Yeah, well, it should be, but bitter sad me can't help but read that with a pained heart. Where's our child who will say happy father's day to my husband???
As you can see, I'm having a particularly hard time handling these types of things right now. How do you all handle comments like this? Any advice on how I can 'buck up' and not take it so personally??? :)
1 month ago