Connecting to the IF (infertility) blogging world has been amazing for me. I hate that there's so much misery out there regarding this and it's not fair, but I'm grateful we have each other if we're going to go through it.
I couldn't help and read Stirrup Queens (she's the central point of all IF bloggers it seems) abbreviations and was amazed to see this one:
You-just-suffered-a-terrible-loss-and-I-don’t-know-what-to-say-so-I’ll-pretend-that-I-don’t-see-you (or a YJSATLAIDKWTSSIPTIDSY): a move some fertile women do when they see a woman they know has recently lost a child (from this entry).
The week before Thanksgiving, we had just learned we were pregnant. So, we knew for 1 week that we were pregnant but my levels weren't rising the way they should. One week later, they declared an abnormal pregnancy thinking it was ectopic. So, they dissolved it. THE DAY BEFORE THANKSGIVING.
She questioned my husband that evening 'is this like a normal miscarriage?'... which I take to mean - if I wasn't profusely bleeding or something, that lessens the fact that this is a miscarriage.
We were pregnant. For 1 week we knew this. And somehow my loss doesn't count as much because I'm not on the floor bleeding.
- I'm so sorry you're going through this.
- How are you feeling?
- This must be hard for you.
- Is there anything I can do to help?
- Do you need a hug?
- I love you.
Is that so hard? Is that too much to ask???